The American Pour


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And…we are back! Almost six months since our last (first!) post and we are back again to talk about our next favorite thing. Being as clever as we are, certain life choices have resulted in us living in two fabulous countries for wine: Italy and France. So you can imagine that after many years of wine drinking experience, we have made the observation that the pour just isn’t as generous here than in the States. Yes, one could say that maybe here in Europe they are more conscious of the fact that certain wines need to breathe or remain chilled in the case of a white/rosé, or that no one is stopping you from pouring another glass, but we beg to differ. What if we are at a big family dinner and the wine bottle ends up at the other end of the table? Or at a restaurant when the waiter may even take the bottle far, far away. Or you have a certain family member/friend who has the foresight to keep the bottle near them throughout the whole meal…note to self to sit near them next time.

At the risk of you thinking we are crazy, lets look at some photos shall we? On the left below, the serving size according to the wine label, and on the right, this serving size in real life. Can you believe how ridiculous the size of that pour is? Granted the glass is big but still…

Need more real life photos of our theory? Again below, “our” pours vs the european pours…we trust you will recognize the difference between the two!

On a more serious note, Rosemary’s mother-in-law is convinced that in France waiters pour less for women than for men. Which got us thinking about the gender component with wine pours. Is there evidence of this? If so, is it due to cultural differences or part of the institutional idea that women should drink less than men? Culturally, one could argue that it goes both ways — in Europe, pours can generally be less for a woman, but in the States, sometimes the pours are more for a woman if the server is male.

To add to this, during her dating escapades in France and Italy, Sarah learned that it is customary to let the man pour the wine, cue a few awkward moments where Sarah’s glass is empty and either she patiently awaits for the man to notice and pour more wine, or she takes the initiative of pouring thus disrespecting the cultural norm. In the world of dating, extra points go to the man who fills up Sarah’s glass before it is actually empty or before his is empty. However, we must ask why should we have to wait for the man to pour?  If we want more, we want more — it’s our choice.

How do you like your pours?  Do you feel there is a gender component to them?   Let us know what you think!

2 thoughts on “The American Pour

  1. Jennifer Wright says:

    Just more evidence that Cranky and Fabulous are indeed in touch with what most women think about. I too have grappled with the dilemma when the wine level in my glass has dropped and man in front of me has yet to notice, to either continue to patiently wait for him to refill or defy cultural norms and refill myself (thus potentially appearing unladylike and somewhat an alcoholic). Red flag on a first date if man doesn’t keep your glass full and you happy!

  2. Jen says:

    I vote American style of course … After years of dinner parties and restaurants in France, I agree there is unjust wine pouring for men and women.
    We need to start an equality in wine pour movement !

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